Why Blog about it?

The other day someone asked me, "Why did you create the BMU Blog?"
As I said in my first post this blog was inspired by another superhero. The mantra BabyMommasUnite was birthed through many conversations I have shared with him and other BMU allies. A typical conversation starts with... "Why do yall do this or that?" The struggle and desire to understand the answers to these questions are real and usually we go to someone we trust that will help us to understand.

I read and talk about a lot of different topics that impact my life- parenting being one of the most important! I love to write, and I have been searching for a forum that could facilitate some open and honest dialog between men and women, and particularly those of us trying to raise wonderful children. Well, the search brought me to some great conversations with some great people... and the birth of BabyMommasUnite.

This is a great space for me to share experiences and lessons learned as single mother striving to raise two wonderful sons with their father. This is also a great space for others to share their experiences and lessons learned so we can learn from each other, and understand each other better. This is not a MAN bashing space. This is not a BitterBlackWoman space. This is a space for GrownAssWomen and GrownAssMen to dialog and hopefully move us collectively to a better place as parents.

Its not easy to raise children with someone that you have chosen not to be with (for whatever reason). You are connected to this person after your intimate relationship has expired, because you share a child together. And I can speak for my experience, I have made my share of mistakes and so has my BabyDaddy along the way. As we stumbled and fell along the way, our children were sometimes negatively impacted. We all have to remember that in the middle of the valley we do not intend to hurt our children, but the fact is they are impacted by our choices.

Is this space just for Black men and women? No. I am a Black woman, I have children with a Black man, and most of my BMU allies are Black men... so that is my frame of reference. Some issues discussed in this space may particularly pertain to Black men and women, but most trials and triumphs of being single parents cross cultures. I must honestly say that I do believe that men and women within their cultures need to have some RealTalk about how we will strengthen our families.

What makes Wonder Woman the BabyMomma Expert?
I am not the soothsayer of all things BabyMomma, but like I say to my children... I am right 9o% of the time and for the 10% of the time I am wrong I am humble enough to apologize (smile). I have been through my share of trials and triumphs as a Black mother. I share my experiences and thoughts with others all the time. In fact, I joined Blogland with my blog, Today I Choose where I reflect on my life and journey to being a GrownAssWomanOnPurpose... as a personal medium to write and share with others. I do not consider myself an expert, but I do know that I have grown a lot through my experience as a BabyMomma and because of my unity with other BabyMommas and BabyDaddies.

What is BabyMommasUnite?
BabyMommasUnite is a movement! Mothers, I stand with you because you are my sisters. Fathers, I stand with you because you are my brothers. Yes the title of this Blog is BMU, but the reality is that mothers and fathers need to stand with each other and unite for what is truly best for our children. Our children deserve it!

Don't let pain and anger block the growth you need in order to do what is best for yourself and for your sons and daughters. If you are blocking your growth, be honest with yourself and then do something to move forward.

Stand with me,
Wonder Woman