Lesson Learned

I know it has been a long time since I posted on BMU. Things have been constantly evolving. My kids are amazing souls, who can make me reach beyond myself to be a good representative of adulthood for them. In my quest to be a good representative I always find moments that show how much time changes situations and relationships. BabyDaddy and I have both matured a lot over the last year or so. We can disagree and recover from the disagreement a lot faster than before. Co-parenting isn't easy, but we are getting better at it. Even deeper than co-parenting I am getting to a deeper place of forgiveness about our past. Forgiveness of myself for the role I played in a relationship that lasted too long because I was too afraid to let go, and forgiveness of him for his unloving behavior.

This post was inspired by a conversation I had with a friend recently. My friend called me and asked if I had Alicia Keys CD... and of course I did... I am feeling her new CD. Anyways, he asked me to go listen to Track 6 Lesson Learned. I listened to it with him on the phone. When the song finished he said when he first listened to it he thought about me and how much I have grown through the many lessons I have learned from past relationships. I have more learning to do... its called growing, right? Some experiences I went through more than once with the same person (BabyDaddy), and then with another because it took me a while to learn some of the lessons. This song actually really made me think about the rollercoaster relationship I had with BabyDaddy.

All of this to say, life is constantly changing and evolving with time. Years ago, I would not have been able to imagine this deeper level of forgiveness that I have been able to get to. BabyMommas and BabyDaddies peace and forgiveness is possible, but you have to be committed to the internal self-work and have some Allies to help you deal with the moments that you feel you can't stand in peace with the other parent.

Lesson Learned- By Alicia Keys

He broke my heart
and now it's raining
Just don't rub it in
I'm at your door
I feel so crazy bout' it
You say I told you so
You saw it long ago
You knew he had to go
I finally came around
I'm back on solid ground
Can't let it get me down

(2x)
It's alright
it's alright
It's alright
It's alright

Yes I was burned but I called it a lesson learned.
Mistake overturned so I called it a lesson learned.
My soul has returned so I call it a lesson learned.
Another lesson Learned

Sometimes some lies can
take a minute to fully realize

His tears your eyes
30 seconds to apologize
You give him one more chance
just like the time before
but he already knows you'd give a hundred more
until that night in bed, you wake up in a sweat
Your racing to the door
Can't take it anymore

I was burned but I called it a lesson learned
Mistake overturned so i called it lesson learned.
My soul has returned so I call it a lesson learned.
Another lesson learned....

Life perfect, ain’t perfect if you don't know what the struggles for
Falling down ain’t falling down if you don't cry when you hit the floor
It's called the past 'cause I’m getting past
and I ain't nothing like I was before.
You ought to see me now.

Yes I was burned but I called it a lesson learned
Mistake overturned but i called it lesson learned.
My soul has returned so I call it a lesson learned.
Another lesson learned....